Putting An End To The Violence, Full Stop

Today I am honoured to be announced as the Patron of the Full Stop Foundation for ending domestic and sexual violence, Full Stop. Here is a full transcript of my…

By Tara Moss

Mar 5, 2015

Today I am honoured to be announced as the Patron of the Full Stop Foundation for ending domestic and sexual violence, Full Stop. I’d like to thank Dame Professor Marie Bashir, members of parliament including our host Pru Goward MP, Minister for Women, as well as members of the NSW Police, NRL, Our Watch and key supporters of Rape & Domestic Services Australia for attending the launch at Parliament House. Below is a transcript of my speech:

I am honoured be representing the Full Stop Foundation today.

Part of my journey to this podium has been the discovery of patterns in experience and social dynamics – stats and figures – looking beyond my own experiences in life to look at the larger patterns in the world. The discovery of the statistics brings both relief and sadness. Relief because, as a survivor of violence you quickly realize you aren’t alone, but also a sense of profound sadness that the same thing keeps happening to people – the same patterns keep repeating. About 1 in 6 Australian women will be sexually assaulted in their lifetime, and about 1 in 20 men. I am one of the survivors, as are many people hearing this speech, many in this room. Those of you who thankfully have not experienced violence at the hands of someone you know and trust will know someone dear to you who has. This impacts all of our community but particularly impacts women and girls. A staggering 70% of women who are murdered in Australia are murdered by a current or former partner. On average about 1 woman every week has reportedly been killed by an intimate partner or former partner. This year 2 women every week have reportedly been killed by partners and former partners. 2 every single week this year. We don’t know if this alarming new figure is the result of better reporting practices or an increase in violence so far in 2015. Every single one of these deaths is one too many.

Family violence has been, and continues to be, one of the most destructive and deadly epidemics in our culture, impacting people of all walks of life, at every level of society. Intimate partner violence is today the number one cause of non-disease related death, disability and illness in women aged 15-44. The number one cause above all other risks. The home, where women should feel safest, is the most dangerous place for them. More dangerous than the highway. More dangerous than cancer.

The reason I am here at this podium as a survivor is not because I am better than those who have not survived, but because I am lucky. I am going to take my time on this earth to do everything I can to make this violence stop. In doing so I join countless unsung heroines and heroes who have fought hard for decades to make our communities safer – people whose names most of us will never hear. I’d like to acknowledge them now, and thank them for their work. I’d also like to thank those of you who are already here as champions of change in this important area.

Australia, members of parliament, members of the community, leaders in business, I hope you will join us now.

Because although there is now improved public awareness about the issue of sexual and domestic violence and its prevalence, the violence has not stopped. The deaths have not ceased. Awareness is not enough. Talk is not enough. The Full Stop Foundation is about stopping the cycle of violence, Full Stop.

Full Stop will help fund the vital free national counselling service, 1800 RESPECT, where everyone regardless of gender or sexual orientation can call for help and practical support any time of day or night. Everyone deserves that support and none of their calls should go unanswered.

The foundation will also fund vital programs targeted at key areas that come up in the research and statistics again and again each year. Because while anyone can experience sexual or domestic violence, and anyone can commit it, we see that male perpetrators are by far the most common and women and children are by far the most frequent victims of these crimes, with an estimated 1 in 3 women experiencing violence, 1 in 6 being raped and 1 in 4 children being impacted by family violence, and indigenous women being 38 times more likely to be hospitalised by violence than non-indigenous women. These well-documented dynamics are troubling, and difficult to acknowledge, but they provide valuable clues as to where prevention programs are needed most.

The Full Stop Foundation’s prevention programs target key areas, including ethical leadership, a behavioural change program for men who have previously used violence or feel they may in the future, and the Aboriginal Women’s Sexual Assault Network (also know as Hey Sis), our program in indigenous communities, led by indigenous women who are standing up to the violence in their communities.

The awareness raising and research in recent years has set the stage for the possibility of real change. Now we need more than talk, more than awareness, we need evidence-based, research-led programs to finally end the violence, Full Stop.

The Full Stop Foundation is about delivering evidence-based strategies and effective programs based on 40 years of work on the frontlines of domestic and sexual violence.

The Full Stop Foundation is about supporting frontline services for those in need, who have experienced violence, as well as frontline prevention strategies to stop the cycle of violence from occurring.

We can all play a role here, by stopping the victim-blaming so prevalent in our culture – the questions of why she wore this skirt, or he or she walked that road, or why she didn’t leave – and finally put the responsibility for criminal acts squarely on the perpetrators of those acts. As Australian of the Year Rosie Batty has said, ‘What we have to continue to remind ourselves is that violence is a choice’. We need to stand up as a community and say that sexual violence and family violence is a choice that is never okay – no matter who the victim is.

There is also a need for those who can to invest in change. This is the only way real change can occur. When companies buy in to social responsibility programs they not only help raise money, but they stand up for change, they raise awareness in their corporate community and they help drive real change on the ground. Rape and domestic violence impact all of our community, our colleagues and our friends. It affects the productivity of employees and the lives of customers. This is an important issue for everyone, in every sector.

I have been working closely with Rape & Domestic Violence Services and The Full Stop since last year, meeting with their team, with their professional fully-trained counsellors and engaging in their excellent training programs, including complex trauma and vicarious trauma training. With over 40 years of experience in this area, they are experienced, professional and dedicated, and in my view there is no organisation in this country better placed to deliver the programs and services needed for a future without violence.

People can survive domestic violence, can survive sexual assault, but nobody should ever have to. We all have the right to live without the fear of violence.

The time for talk is over. Now is the time to invest in change.

I hope you will join us in supporting The Full Stop Foundation. Thank you.


Image: Andrew Scipione APM, Minister for Women Pru Goward MP, Carmel Tebbutt, Full Stop Foundation Patron Tara Moss, Executive Officer Karen Willis OAM, Dame Professor Marie Bashir, Natasha Maclaren-Jones, and Sophie Cotsis MLC at the launch of the Full Stop Foundation at NSW Parliament House, March 5, 2015. Photographs by Tom Greenwood.

* If you are experiencing sexual assault or domestic or family violence, or you want to support someone who is, contact the free national counselling service 1800 RESPECT for help.



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Related: Q and A Highlight of the Night, ‘Tara Moss on the toxic silences around sexual and domestic violence’:


Related: Australian of the Year Rosie Batty speaks to Tara Moss at the Opera House on International Women’s Day, about domestic and family violence, how gender factors into violence, and about the ‘red flags’ of abusive relationships:


Further information on sexual and domestic violence in Australia:

Our Watch Fact Sheet

Centres Against Sexual Assault (CASA) Fact Sheet


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  1. donella ashbee

    Hi Tara,
    Thankyou so much for your courage and wise but yet completely accurate words regarding domestic violence, and the reason why I know you they are true, is because I am currently going through the whole process, with my ex-husband, and am not receiving much support from Penrith Police Station, as I have been informed they arent even lodging a report in the “system”, when I do make one, therefore, whilst I have had St Marys Police station recommend I have one, upon re-asking Penrith for an AVO, I am,and as they have put it, “not eligilbe for one”, its all family law stuff, but i can whole heartdly tell you its not all family law, its actually, abuse, harrassment, stalking, intimidation, threatening etc etc, and yet nothing is recorded for me and nothing can be done to protect myself and my 2 boys aged 11yrs and 5yrs? I honestly feel like im made to feel like the ‘bad person’, and yet the actual perpertrader gets away with horrible behaviour with no repocussions, so PLEASE, keep going and dont stop, so that little people like me can have a voice and finally get the help, protection and support we so desperatley need! MANY THANKS, Donella Ashbee.

  2. Naomi Arnold

    Oh Tara, what a speech. Thank you for opening the eyes of many. I will be forwarding this on to everyone on my email list – and will be researching Full Stop further to see how I can be involved in creating change in an area that I am also very passionate about. A million thank yous.

  3. Hope McGregor

    Dear Tara,
    My name is Hope McGregor, I am a 37 yr old single mother with one four year old in my care. Eva was born after I lost 3 daughters, who are now in the custody of the perpetrator of abuse, their father, my ex-partner.
    In 2009 he admitted to forms of sexual abuse on the stand in the Family Court t childrenrial, and other issues of abuse, and he was given custody, me supervised access. Before this trial he was having supervised access as two of the children had started making disclosures of sexual abuse. After trial this was reversed, with me having to have supervised access. I was forced to start recording my supervised access time, due to concern for the welfare in all areas, of my children, but being forced to hand them back to the abuser. Since I left my Domestic Violence relationship I have been treated like the one with the problem, Police did not record the first event number when I went to seek help, and call me ficticious and frivilous, vindictive, police shopper,’maybe yr making it all up’, I have been told. There is a conflict of interest lawyer who is also questionable. I need to find the right person who would just look at everythhing I have in regards to ignored evidence. Instead of DoCS investigating they just made an agreement with the perpetrator not to commit abusive acts(including nudity and pornography towards children).
    Please contact me Tara, ASAP, I need yr help to help my children. xo

    Yours Sincerely

    • Tara Moss

      Dear Hope, I am sorry to hear your story. I recommend you contact the Women’s Legal Resource Centre. They are based in Lidcombe and have outreach services in a number of women’s health and other centres. If there has been a miscarriage of justice they have pro bono lawyers who take on these matters. Good luck to you and yours.
      Best wishes,

  4. Lauretta (Ellen) rkrowsell

    Hi Tara
    I saw this on the Women’s Refuge New Zealand site. I thought it was a clever (and also confronting) guideline to stopping rape in most of its forms. It is difficult for society to accept that men are the decision makers when it comes to violence against women. This guide takes the reader through different scenarios where a male who is a rapist are likely to act. https://www.facebook.com/liz.blight.9/posts/10203122344134224
    Liz Blight is a friend of mine on facebook. This was the only way I could find to share it with you.

    With kind regards and thank you for supporting the safety of women.

    Lauretta Rowsell (I use Lauretta Ellenon Facebook for my personal safety as I am a Child Safety Officer in Queensland

  5. Ross Hamilton

    Quite belated congratulations on this honourary appointment. I have no doubt whatsoever that you shall be a wonderful spokespersona and role model here as you are elsewhere.

  6. Livia York

    Dear Tara, history repeats itself we know, I have a story of domestic violence from 1969 that I would like to share with you privately and in the process I am interested in helping your cause financially. I am now 72 . Please let me know if you’re interested. My congratulations for your strength and your appointment. My best regards, Livia

  7. Brian Harvey

    Hi Tara, I just wanted to say a big thank you for creating awareness around this scourge within our society. I am also the survivor of a Sexual Assault/Rape in very similar circumstances to yours and sadly it was carried out by a Former Detective. The one person that I should have been able to trust when she said that nothing would happen. It has destroyed my life but I am still here and grateful for each day. Domestic Violence has to stop and everyone has to be aware of the impact that it has on people’s lives not to mention the innocent children.


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